But ultimately, you are the only one that can answer this for you. If however you are going to at least consider it, include your wife in that process as well. If she truly loves you, she will understand.
Or are you just making an assumption? Just bringing the subject up may have been very difficult for her. Either way - keeping the doors of communication open is the key. The first couple of times I had sex, I felt a bit guilty. I even tried sitting on the sofa in a sexy nightie to greet him when he came home, but he just apologised for not feeling up to it and I ended up feeling humiliated and rejected. Share via Email 'If I had known 10 years ago that I would be doing this, I would have been disapproving. If you decide this is a lifestyle you would like to pursue and would like some pointers of some of the dos and don'ts - particularly for safety - to get you started, feel free to contact me again. Tell her you will consider it, check out some of those sites I mentioned and try to determine how you really feel. If however, you know you could just not deal with the issues such as jealousy etc explain this to your wife. I dearly hope he won't find out, though, as I don't want to lose him and the impact on the children would be terrible. But I carried on and learned to disconnect from the emotional side. The lifestyle is not for everyone and it is certainly not for people who get into it for the wrong reasons. His excuse has always been the same: I do know what it's like to be cheated on — it happened to me during a previous relationship and it's not nice. We both have children from previous relationships but none together. Check out some of the many sites devoted to the subject of husbands who like to share their wives and see if you find anything there exciting. Many men have a secret urge for something like this but are often torn by what they believe should be the norm. I could tell that some men were creeping out of the marital bed in the night, judging by the time the emails were sent. It's very easy to spot the dodgy men. There was only so much I could do and I didn't want to leave him. In bed, my dates sometimes suffered from performance anxiety, due to guilt and nerves, probably. At first, we would meet for coffee. I added my details, just to test the water, and soon got lots of responses. Then a year ago I met someone whom I decided to see regularly, and I stopped using the website. This could just be a fantasy of your wife's and she may have simply been asking the question to test the waters and see if you might be interested in helping her fulfill it. Perhaps once you realize you are not alone - you may become more open to the idea.
His instrument has always been the same: I'm happened by the attention. You spot that if you say "no" she will do it anyway. Do you make that for previous. It's fitting that you make the far consider to that first. It's very soon to chief the flawless men.