That is the story of his life. He dropped the charming line just five minutes after explaining to me that "oops," he wasn't gay, the app must have fucked up and popped me, a male, into his feed by accident. This limited view is evident by how those who are strictly dickly — straight women and gay men — are conditioned to view even the most mildly bi-curious guys.
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