It's about building the 'hmmm' factor. Larger text size Very large text size Most of us have the sex equivalent of baked beans on toast, says sex therapist and author of Sex Tips for Busy People, Jacqueline Hellyer. We need to create "the conditions that enable desire," she says. But it's possible to regain it, she says, if we take the time to refill our pantries of love, so to speak.
Just in a way that is different to men. She hopes that through these, and by openly discussing sex, to re-educate people and shift thinking from the current model. Hellyer holds regular "non-sleazy" workshops for men, women and couples to help them understand their bodies and each other better. It's about building the 'hmmm' factor. They tell me they want it to be spontaneous like it was in the beginning. A model that, she says, perpetuates misconceptions about what men and women want. Half the excitement is the anticipation of what they know is coming. Slobbing around in scungies picking your nose and scratching your balls [doesn't create an environment conducive to sex]. But it was never spontaneous. A survey by La Trobe University of over people found only 46 per cent of men and 58 per cent of women were satisfied with their current frequency of sex. Advertisement It also involves rethinking our attitude to sex. Another survey of women, by Joan Sauers for her book Sex Lives of Australian Women, found that many complain of boring sex lives and one in three rarely, if ever, experience orgasm. But it's possible to regain it, she says, if we take the time to refill our pantries of love, so to speak. Hellyer doesn't doubt it, women are defintiely "into it", she asserts. The problem is, though, that most people don't actually like sex like that. But, a sense of obligation can stem from the patriarchal mode of thinking. We need to create "the conditions that enable desire," she says. Yet, contrary to the idea that women "aren't into it," Sauers found that almost half 49 per cent say they want sex most of the time when it is offered. Larger text size Very large text size Most of us have the sex equivalent of baked beans on toast, says sex therapist and author of Sex Tips for Busy People, Jacqueline Hellyer. They think [the man] just wants to get it over and done with or that he'll get bored [pleasuring her]. And even if they do, it's very limited. The same goes for having great sex. That sex should "just happen" is one of the myths Hellyer is intent on dispelling. In the beginning, people plan - they shave, they put on nice underwear.
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